What life is?

Life is just relationship

Introduction

Every being seeks every moment to be only HAPPY and nothing else. If this is what the ultimate truth is then what are we all seeking for and where? We seek HAPPINESS in LIFE only in a relationship. Let’s understand what life is all about.

Life is an experience born out of relationship. Right from the point we take the first and last breath we enter, sustain and exit only in a relationship. The relationship which we enter and exit is with animate matter which has life and the inanimate matter which doesn’t have life. By this dictum, while the passage of life we first enter into relationship with our own body then with the clothes we wear, food we eat, shelter we live, the people we meet, things which we use… It’s not only that the relationships are limited to the things which we can tangibly experience but also beyond. Relating with the intangible things like GOD, thoughts and feelings are the experience which we can’t see but are the pure phenomena connected with the basic energy which we all call as soul.

Entry and Exit in a Relationship

The first relationship which we enter is with the breath which is connected with our own body. The day we lose the relationship with this breath we exit with all the relationships with or without our own choice associated with our birth. The most beautiful thing is that the entry in a relationship may not be in our hands but the exit in a relationship is generally in our hands. Do you know why in our lives we suffer about our past or are worried about our future? It is because that whenever we lived all those relationships less than the attention it deserved, we have sufferings. Especially when we can actually vent and speak about our suffering but for our own foolish reasons or ego trip we maintained unwanted silence. In every such case of relationship the mind will haunt us either with guilt by taking us to the past or create fear for future whenever we reminicise or encounter those relationships.

Let me give an example that I loved a tea cup as it was given to me by an affable friend or I loved the very sight of it as it pleased me because of my inner drive. One fine day due to frustration on someone I threw it and broke it. Just observe the entire chain and sequence. First, I have entered into a relationship with the cup which is an inanimate matter because of my extreme inner desire or for the expression of love. NextlI exited the relationship by breaking the cup in an unceremonious manner which brings out clearly that the relationship was not given the right attention which it deserved. So whenever I think of the cup then it will make me feel always guilty not because I entered the relationship but the ungraceful way I exited the relationship. Life is like this that the cup in reference can be our body, mother, father, brother, boyfriend, girlfriend, husband, wife, friend, pet dog, car, table, chair, pen, tree … and so on.

The moral of the whole story is that however tragic, joyful or comical our entry can be, it will matter least, as what will matter always will be how we exited in a relationship.

We can never run from who we truly are. Destiny chooses us.