Letter to a friend whom I never saw

Dear Lyn

Especially at the time when this tragedy and unceremonious event occurred, SILENCE seems only a perspective which speaks more than words when one undergoes trauma like the way LYN has gone through. It’s delicate for any person to confront LYN and address her concern as she is the only one who knows how earth beneath her feet has whisked away into an abyss. She has lived life in the past eight months more closely to death than to life itself. The passage of time would’ve definitely got some sense of balance but the scars and wounds still stands fresh and green as it cannot leave LYN so soon because she was physically present there. The frame of this happening must be running in her mind and must be rewinding whenever she encounters the things which are connected to their loved ones. Standing opposite to LYN and writing this mail is the first introduction of me to LYN.

Nothing in life happens by chance. Everything is destined and we dwell with a feeling that we are doing something or we are controlling things. But actual truth is that “we are neither the MIND which makes us believe “what we are” nor the body which we feel and think we are.” The reality about all of us is nothing but we all are ENERGY called as SOUL. It is the eternal truth. Energy will only change the form and will always stay connected to eternity with all energies which have been part of life in this birth and shall be in later birth too.

Every Soul is nothing but an energy being part of that INFINITE ENERGY which we all call as GOD. In order to understand the eternal truth we all need to peep inside than to search the answer outside. Every person asks a question “Why me and Why it should happen to me?” It’s the most difficult question if one seeks the answer by just looking just in the past. But if one goes beyond the experiential past then all the puzzles on the board will give the answers. Please do not consider that I’m justifying the event which has happened to LYN, but I’m just making an attempt that if not today LYN will definitely make a probe to my thoughts tomorrow and integrate it to her own SOUL.

My first inroduction to LYN is that for a while we will keep aside what tragedy happened with her and address the immediate concern for healing which is most urgent for LYN. After this process is over then only we can dwell later on the core aspects of WHY ME? “Why me” is a marathon process and will get dissolved when the interaction reaches its finality.

The first query which I ask is:

“Why drainage overflows?

What happens if the issue is not addressed sooner or later?

How to fix the problem of choked drainage?”

You must be wondering

“Why this stupid question is being asked at all when the answer is also so simple?

How it is connected to my life at this juncture?

At this juncture I still ask you the same question and then request you to just look at a CHILD and then look yourself in a mirror too.

What do you find?

You will find that the child is just a vibrant energy whose energy is just akin to an ever blooming flower and whereas the energy level in us is much lower than what is in a child.

If we were the same child from whom we have transformed into an adult then where did we leave our vibrant energy which is making us a flower with lesser life than what we were when we were a child? The answer simply lies in the concept of drainage.

Drainage overflows whenever it gets choked due to blockage caused by some garbage. Whenever the drainage gets choked we need to remove the blocked garbage or dissolve the garbage for the smooth flow. If the choked drainage is not cleared then sooner or later the surrounding starts stinking and the place becomes inhabitable. An honest cry, laughter and scolding in one’s relationship with the other is very essential to keep the drainage clean in one’s own body and mind.

The life has got so much conditioned in an adult that it has refused to respond to its natural behaviour. Every conditioned behaviour contrary to natural behaviour creates a small heap of garbage which gets collected in mind and in turn manifests in a body. Systematic collection of this garbage in our mind over a period of time will make our drainage choked. Let us see how it operates?

If one wants to genuinely cry then some of the responses are: Why the hell you are crying? You are neither a girl nor a child…?

If one wants to genuinely laugh then some of the responses are: Stop laughing people will think you are mad. Have you gone mad?...

If one discovers that one is harming at the back, but due to our own selfish interest we pretend and act quite opposite. “Boss you are great and you have been very helpful” instead the inner response while saying the praise was “Rascal and wretched soul, you need be slapped publicly”

Every act of living quite contrary to one’s own self would systematically collect garbage inside the mind of an adult which is never there in a child. That’s why generally an adult does not look like a full bloomed flower like a child. A child by living its natural behaviour never allows the garbage to be collected for long but brings it out as soon as possible. This why the CHILD is vibrant energy over an ADULT.

Now LYN please tell me if the same tragic incident would have happened not in your immediate family but to one who is a dear friend to you then would you have kept your tears away for the passing off of your loved ones not born out of your womb or was not connected by your own marriage? Believe me you would’ve bitterly cried and also would’ve hugged for the last time your loved ones before paying them their last respectable homage.

Tell me LYN how you can be so RUTHLESS with your own loved one’s that you didn’t give them the place of a friend and let them go gracefully. If this garbage is not cleaned then neither you will get the salvation nor your loved ones’ who rested in your lap and your shoulder when they were alive.

PLEASE CRY OUT and RELEASE ALL THE TEARS which your HUSBAND and CHILDREN rightfully deserved. I’m positive the TEARS will melt away all the garbage which you have dumped over your wonderful and awesome relationship of your bereaved souls. I know its very very difficult but don’t you honestly feel that “LOVING is letting a relationship exit gracefully?”

IF YOU DON’T LEAVE THINGS GRACEFULLY, YOU DON’T POSSESS THEM, IT POSSESSESS YOU.

Until unless you won’t shed tear for your loved ones you will never understand what I’m going to say in future as your DRAINAGE stands CHOKED.

Please take care

Warm regards

Hari Rao